But It Does Not Seem Fair, I Am the One Abandoned Here?
1) Direct Answer
I know it feels unfair, but the Word doesn’t change because someone wronged you. Even if you were abandoned, you are called to peace—not to chase—and to remain unmarried or be reconciled while your spouse lives. God will not abandon you.
2) Scriptural Explanation
- The Bible says, “If the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace” (1 Corinthians 7:15). Peace to let them go—not permission to remarry.
- It already said, “Let not the wife depart… but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).
- “The woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth” (Romans 7:2-3; see also 1 Corinthians 7:39).
- When treated unjustly, Jesus “suffered… committed Himself to Him that judgeth righteously” (1 Peter 2:21-23). He is our pattern.
- The Lord says, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee” (Hebrews 13:5), and He is “nigh unto them that are of a broken heart” (Psalm 34:18).
3) Simple Clarifying Logic
- Ask yourself: Does God change His covenant because someone else broke theirs? If man’s sin could dissolve God’s rule, then Jesus’ words about adultery would be set aside by abandonment. The Bible won’t contradict itself.
- “Not under bondage” means you are free from the obligation to force the union; it does not mean free to enter another. Allowing remarriage here would make man’s leaving do what God said man cannot do—put asunder what God joined.
- Obedience may feel like a cross, but grace meets you on that road. Adding another union while your spouse lives would only turn your pain into adultery. Staying with the Word keeps your conscience clean and your testimony bright.
4) Short Reinforcing Statement
You see, God sees the unfairness and will judge righteously. If there is danger or abuse, separate for safety and peace, but keep yourself pure—unmarried or reconciled. Lean on the Lord, lean on the church for support, and let God be your keeper. He will not fail you.